We have Jace Downey joining us on The SHAIR Podcast today. Jace is a sex addict. She spent the very last 15 years residing a life that is double. She destroyed her life therefore often times, she finally made a decision to end it. She browse the self-help books, tried test and mistake experiments to obtain better, and had been seeing therapists that are multiple. Nothing made or helped any sense. She ended up being destructive, a poor friend, selfish, and a mess that is complete. She hated by herself. The concept for committing committing suicide didn’t originate from an accepted host to dramatic despair. It certainly simply appeared like the following step that is best.

“I became miserable; we made those at all around me miserable, and the only people who liked me didn’t know me. I recently couldn’t carry on carrying it out anymore. I needed to make towards the escape I experienced utilized therefore times that are many the last, but i really couldn’t do so. The urge to evade the pain I became feeling was so overpowering that we begun to wonder. If intercourse releases chemicals in the mind comparable to compared to medications, can it be just like damaging?

We hear a great deal in conferences in terms of spirituality goes too, and always picking right on up tidbits that are different.

i must say i struggled due to the past we have actually using the actual comprehension of Jesus and what which have meant in my own past. I’d to generate my personal greater energy, and when i did so and recognized it could be defined in any way you’d it’s made it a lot easier dating asian where I’m not feeling like I’m under the eye of shame or disgrace or judgment, but an all-loving all-excepting type of thing where it’s really more like a partnership like it, then.

Omar: Positively. Gorgeous. Personally I think precisely the way that is same. I became raised being a Jehovah’s Witness, and so I had plenty of opposition to virtually any type of spirituality because We combined spirituality with religion, and so I was extremely resistant to something that revolved around the term “God” and sometimes even the larger power concept. When it became clear in my experience than me of my own understanding, then it became a lot easier for me to adopt that philosophy, so I am right there with you that I could come up with the understanding, the power greater.

Jace, reveal exactly how much time that is clean just how much sobriety time are you experiencing, as soon as is the anniversary date?

Jace: My anniversary is February second of 2015, therefore I have simply over ten months of sobriety under my gear.

Omar: So on the main topics Porn Addiction will there be anything specific you are able to tell somebody who’s brand brand new, who’s suffering from porn addiction, who’s been up for like 3 days and their eyes are going to pop from their minds? Can there be a thing that they could do? Exactly What can you state in their mind?

Jace: i might say head to a gathering right away. I am aware that that may seem like a actually frightening thing, so it’s likely to be a tremendously shameful thing. It’s not just you. Also I have a number of the dudes in there similar to, “Oh, I’m sorry to say that in the front of you, Jace,” and I’m like, “I am in the program for a reason.” Porn addiction … Intercourse addiction generally speaking, but specially porn addiction, could be the quickest growing addiction at this time. You’re not by yourself. It is not too shameful. You will find therefore numerous tools that can help with things from blocking your phone, blocking your personal computer from planning to those internet sites. There’s a complete large amount of organizations available to you working specifically to greatly help porn addicts. You picked a really good one, because there’s a lot of help for porn addiction right now if you are going to be addicted to any element of the sexual realm.

Omar: Wow. It is loved by me. That’s great. And just what publications could you suggest to newcomers which you read in your very early recovery, or you’re currently reading?

Jace: Oh my gosh. Everyone loves to read through, so I’ve read many, specially when I became so gung-ho at first. An extremely good one, from it, and how we’re getting better by it if you’re just wanting to learn about sex addiction and recovery, Patrick Carnes, he has so many phenomenal books, one of his earlier books is called Out of the Shadows, and it really talks about what the addiction is, what it looks like, who’s suffering.

Robert Weiss even offers Sex Addiction 101: a simple Guide to Addiction and healing. That’s a great one.

My personal favorite that I’ve read up to now, it is called Females, Intercourse, and Addiction. It is by Charlotte Davis Kasl, and it’s a really amazing book for anyone to read though it does focus more on women in general. It truly speaks in regards to the connection between all of the addictions. It gets into to your relationship between adult addiction and early abuse and neglect, and it also speaks a great deal on how we as being a tradition, and particularly ladies, utilize sex to flee discomfort also to actually gain a feeling of energy, and exactly how we are able to actually utilize it as an expression of our heart, and it will actually be described as a thing that is good. Ladies, Intercourse, and Addiction, specially I know firsthand how confusing all of this is and how there are fewer resources for women if you’re a female out there listening. That’s a place that is really good begin.