10 Reasons This Woman’s Saying Nope on Tinder

I love that! But, again, we’re left with the issue of not finding the desired depth for women of that height on any dating sites. I mean, sure, I could checkout a niche site about dating for tall people but web sites are lame anyway; I just wish people would make it easy on me and just go to OkCupid and allow me to get it over with, choose my tall dame and be done with it all. Alas, that is not to be. So what’s a guy to do? Maria Sharapovas aren’t growing on trees and shit. And yeah, I know there’s no George Clooneys or Ryan Goslings in surplus to be ravaged. Yes, we all suck. Is there a solution? Like I said, outside of a niche dating site, I don’t see that there is.

Tall women, like any other type of woman, aren’t just roaming the land waiting to be pounced on… That would be creepy and a slight bit rapey… I digress, but you get the picture.uberhorny delete profile I mean, the only real idea I have is going to a meetup on the topic and see what you get; chances are there’s not such a meetup in your area, though, you could try to create a meetup and see who shows up… And even that’s a mixed bag. Okay, that was a ‘soft rant.’ /End Rant. Until next time, keep it in your skivvies, yo! Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox! Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox… Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading… Share This Article Facebook2Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: Online Dating Tagged in: heightist, tall people dating Darius, you are NOT the father! In astrology, there are certain signs that are more compatible than others. Whether you’re an experienced astrologer or just like to read your horoscope, it’s important to consider a potential partner’s sign when deciding if you should settle down. Some signs get along swimmingly, others–like the following pairs–mix like oil and water. Let’s hope you and your new sweetie aren’t on this list! Aries and Capricorn – Capricorns are loyal to the practical aspects of their lives and are always looking ahead while Aries tend to live in the here and now, without regard to the future.  Aries are impulsive tending to act first and think later, which clashes with all the Capricorn tendency to plan.  Aries tend to be unrestricted with their money while Capricorns are likely to be financially more conservative, so think twice before getting a joint bank account.

 Love sparks may fly, but since the way these lovers think can be polar other in just about everything, heated arguments are likely to be ignited. Taurus and Aquarius – The love between Taurus and Aquarius could be trying at best. Taurus’ tend to be traditional, consistent, and dependable while Aquarians are free spirits that like to live life off the beaten path. Opposites can attract, but because both signs also tend to be stubborn, you can expect quite a few standoffs for this pair. This match typically won’t last long since a Taurus can be very content in a relationship that changes little where an Aquarius needs a relationship that grows and changes often. Pisces and Gemini – Geminis are strong communicators and look for grand pronouncements of love. This differs greatly from those with signs in Pisces since they tend to want understated displays of affection. These differences can leave the Pisces overwhelmed and the Gemini feeling as their love well is not being filled. Good thing both signs really are a little flexible, but this pairing is always a challenging one. Cancer and Libra – Both of these signs crave harmony, so much in order that both partners in this relationship may try to change their true nature to create this relationship work.  To complicate things even more, communication between these signs could be troublesome. Be careful: these relationships can fall into game playing and both partners can get hurt. Leo and Scorpio –Leos and Scorpios can both be very possessive of one another, which can create arguments for this pair. Both signs can be very inflexible and proud, so compromises are a rare occurrence.

The bedroom can also become a battleground for this pair as Scorpios tend to withhold sex and Leos have strong sexual appetites.  There are so many ways a couple can clash, and this pair seems to have them all. Virgo and Sagittarius – The pairing of these zodiac signs is, hands down, one of the most tumultuous. There can be huge attraction in the beginning, but these signs tend to have different values and relationship styles. Virgos are more practical while lovers with signs in Sagittarius tend to be philosophical.  Sagittarians tend to crave freedom and space in their lives, something that Virgos don’t have a natural tendency for.

Signals Crossed: Sometimes a Bad First Date Went Worse Than You Thought

 Because these signs are so different, it would be incredible for them to ever find middle ground. This post was written on behalf of Hollywood Psychics. phone psychic reading, visit our site today! Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox! Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox… Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading… Share This Article Facebook9Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: Dating & Relationships Tagged in: astrology, couples, Dating, Relationships, zodiac signs The Showtime television program, “Bullsh*t!”–Season Two, Episode Sixteen, 2004 (on youtube.com, September 30th, 2013), co-hosted by magicians Penn Jillette and Raymond Teller, reported on the billion-dollar dating industry. But is that industry worth the “billion-dollar” hype? The big game players like Match.com, New York’s HurryDate, Cosmopolitan Magazine, and countless authors of books like “The Game” and “Men are from Mars, Women Are from Venus” would you have you believe so. The truth is that they are just for entertainment. They’re selling fantasy over veracity, Penn explained. Further, he added, “You’ve got…a chance when it’s you and another person in the room or on the internet, without some exploitative hack in the middle…with cynical bullshit about rules and planets.

Men and women are…from earth.” Moreover, as behavioral science skeptics in the episode explained, publicly purveying personal details and pictures of oneself, via some psychobabbling “expert,” online, ignores the human dimension. Once again we realize that any media portrayal could be unrealistic, like the way true love was always overly-romanticized in the movies. To discover if Penn and Teller were right, I delved into traditional online dating sites with their media savvy coaches ( not matchmakers and, admittedly, formerly nerds themselves); who each with a decade of experience.topadultreview.com In the Comments section, on youtube, where they showcase their wares, they were embraced with skeptical sardonicism or effusive testimonials. Payton Kane, M.A. (psychology), is still single. He hosts a Toronto radio show, “Seduce and Conquer,” wherein he plugs his goods. What kinds of “goods?” Try the one for $300 for his Home Study course of CDs & DVDs, or maybe $5,995 for the VIP One Week All Inclusive Seminar in the Dominican Republic. Payton excels in being a pickup artist (PUA).

His reality show videos are sometimes raunchy, but always hilarious and informative. Corey Wayne, college educated in construction management, is a formerly married Floridian. His book, “How To Be A 3% Man,” imitates the “Doc Love” approach. He’s into PUA. Corey issues voluminous repartees to amazon.com readers and blocks commentators on his youtube channel, who criticize him; solicits financial donations and charges $225/hour for a skype phone session; and offers repetitive long-winded advice, but is a superb storyteller. Marni Kinrys, B.A. (psychology; London, Ontario), is married. She’s the creator of “Wing Girl Method.” A wing girl/boy accompanies somebody to bars or dances, to pinpoint who might reciprocate the interest they have in someone, then assesses the discussion. She helps PUAs. Her products range from $27-77 for DVDs/videos to $269 for a forty-five minute skype phone session, to $6,499 for a Wing Girl Outing™: In Person Two-Day Coaching. Marni’s “Get Inside Her: Dirty Dating Tips & Secrets From A Woman” book contains extensive e-mail exchanges. Nevertheless, her enthusiasm is contagious. Kateryna Spiwak, B.A. (psychology), is married. She created datingessentials in Toronto, which feature her dating tips videos, but no books or DVDs are available.

She’s a wing girl–not into PUA. Kateryna offers a free, thirty-minute phone consultation; curiously, none of her fees were listed for conducting practice dates; screenings of dating site profiles or one’s prospects and actions therein; or appearance assessments and makeovers. However, she’s pragmatic. These coaches all found a way to sell and financially profit from their game oriented programs; bragging how they’ve helped throngs (with unproven data) develop people skills. A caveat: their culturally biased suggestions could be inappropriate to what’s expected in your community. We learn from all, this: confidence, and good looking–perhaps, but always looking good, are paramount in dating; people usually compensate for falling short in appearance. Clinginess equals creepiness when confidence is absent in a man. For instance, women disrelish men incessantly phoning them for initial dates without allowing them their space to respond. In fact, Charlie Valentino’s “First Date Tips For Men: The Complete Dating Psychology Guide For Men” (2013) says, “Firstly, I would like any guy…to have complete confidence…with women….

The second thing I would like…. If i will help…guys to be great on first dates…then I’ll be helping…ladies to find their dream guy….” ( page five). Confidence drives goals, resulting in social status inevitably being essential in attraction. Californian “masculinist” Warren Farrell, Ph.D. (political science), in “Why Men Are The Way They Are” (1986) talks about man as a “success object” and “…IS LOVED…BECAUSE HE’S SUCCESSFUL….” Further, “THE LESS A MAN IS WILLING TO GIVE UP A SEX OBJECT, THE MORE HE WILL BE TRAPPED INTO BECOMING A SUCCESS OBJECT” (page 134).

I Built a Bridge to Nowhere aka Failing to Seal the Deal

If so, men then want authentic women—displayed through their conversation, body language and attitude–who appreciate this quality in them. What Penn averred about the dating industry being “bullshit” is somewhat accurate. Expensive investment for omniscient, winging coaches—boasting empirical—and unsubstantiated—results for services–aren’t required; just proper social skills, according to cultural norms and comprehension of personality traits like confidence, are. Dating isn’t necessarily a “game.” Learn and experiment, whenever cost-free, from the internet, with what works for you–eschewing the hype. References Farrell, Warren. (1988). “Why Men Are The Way They Are.” New York: Berkley Books. Fein, Ellen and Sherry Schneider. (2002). “The Rules for Online Dating: Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right in Cyberspace.” New York: Gallery Books. Gray, John. (2003). “Men Are from Mars; Women Are from Venus.” New York: Harper Paperbacks. Jillette, Penn and Raymond Teller. (2004). “Bullsh*t!”–Season Two, Episode Sixteen, Youtube.com. (September 30, 2013). URL=n.a.

Kane, Payton. URL=http://www.seduceandconquer.com/radio/ Kinrys, Marni. (2013). “Get Inside Her: Dirty Dating Tips & Secrets From A Woman.” City, n.a.: Velocity House. Kinrys, Marni. URL=http://www.winggirlmethod.com/ Spiwak, Kateryna. URL=http://www.datingessentials.com/index.php/Home/Index Valentino, Charlie. (2013). “First Date Tips For Men: The Complete Dating Psychology Guide For Men.” Seattle: CreateSpace Independent Publishing Platform. Wayne, Corey. “How To Be A 3% Man.” (2013). City, n.a.: Lulu.com. Wayne, Corey.

URL=http://www.understandingrelationships.com/ Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox! Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox… Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading… Share This Article Facebook21Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: Online Dating Tagged in: Dating, David Chirko, psychology I’m not sure where I saw the stat and, hell, I don’t even know if it’s true… What I recall hearing was that 40% of people research their dates/potential suitors, with over 50% of those surveyed saying that they’d call the whole thing off if they found just one weird thing about their beau… Call it “Googling” or whatever you like. But it’s definitely it’s definitely the guilty pleasure of cyber-stalking. Plain and simple. The number shocked the fuck out of me. I’d have expected closer to 90% given how many people I spoke to about this admitted that they cyber-stalked their companions. I’ve done it, too. I’m not trying to place myself on a pedestal, y’all. The numbers don’t lie though, do they? So, what do we do about it? We Take Our Medicine and Show the World We Ain’t Got Shit to Hide!

In short, it all comes down to a simple philosophy: Do you care what a significant other finds out about you on the internet? If you’re not doing anything wrong, what’s the big deal? Right? I’m not doing anything wrong here, but many women feel “weird” about the fact I have a dating blog. Women feel like they’re research material. I actually don’t date women for the joy of writing about them. At this point, believe it or not, I’m actually trying to find “the one.” A google Search of me will let you in on what I do and quickly lead you to other projects I’m involved with. I don’t mind, go ahead and search me up! A woman will know I’m business owning, WordPress Loving, Little Black Dress chaser of unparalleled equal and never even have to ask about it. That search will inevitably lead up to this here blog. It just will and if one goes through this blog, clicking the reasons you shouldn’t date  me link plus reading through a number of other articles one will find everything they need to know about me. They can cast their judgement and women often do. I doesn’t matter if I’m nice, or an asshole; my whole life is there easily stalked by any mildly motivated person. On OkCupid, I put a link of a Google Search of myself on my profile and also a link to the Urban Dater. Left my profile untouched for a week. No messages, plenty of visitors, I sent messages to each woman and got zero replies.

The following week (this week) I took them down. How’d I do then, the week following? About the same amount of visits, five messages from different women and a few quick match likes. Not staggering figures, but I do believe that, that I got any interactions at all is due to removing the links I posted on my profile. It doesn’t take much to send women running online (goes for men, t00). Simple modifications I made on my profile had helped boost engagement from women on OkCupid and it was minor stuff. Again, it doesn’t take much and in the world of Online Dating, you don’t want to give someone the slightest bit of doubt causing them to click to the next profile. This isn’t a tale of caution as much as it is a sign of the times. Information is readily available and people can and will find it making a judgement on you according to their findings. People will scatter if they see the slightest grey area to question. So be careful what you put up there; you might just be making your road to happiness a little more bumpy than you thought…. Apparently my online antics scare women off. Who knew? Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox!

Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox… Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading… Share This Article Facebook6Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: Online Dating There are a lot of guys that believe girls have it much easier since the burden of initiation is on him. Then there are girls that think guys have it easier because they get to pick. So who is right? As most men explain it, the burden is on him to gather his rattling nerves. The burden is on him to make the initial move. The burden is on him to win the girl over. All she has to do is sit back and decide when to swing the cleaver at his nuts while they are laid out on the chopping block.What they are forgetting is that it is a lot of work for the girl to be responsible for rejecting the poor bastard and let him down as easily as possible. Most normal girls are not sadistic and don’t enjoy crushing the hopes of the hapless chaps. Just as it sucks to be the hiring manager that also has to fire someone, it sucks to always have to be the one to say no.Just like being a man doesn’t mean you want every girl you see, nor does a girl want every guy that comes up to them. The difference is that a man gets to approach any available girl that catches his eye as the girl has to wait and hope the right guy approaches her. If you could get inside the heads of both these people and take a third party perspective, you will see that it is two sides of the same coin.

Different angles in the same problem. The guy has to risk rejection which can take a toll on an already weak self-esteem. The girl has to hope that the guy she wants notices her eye contact.So where do we go from here? The first step to solving any problem is awareness. Simply understanding that we all share in this dilema and not blaming each other is a good first step. Stop blaming girls for being mean and heartless when you get rejected if you are a guy. Don’t blame guys for trying if you are a girl. Usually that’s the best they got and never had the right conditions to develop into strong, confident and socially skilled men. Just say no and you’ll never see him again. The second step is not to get caught up in trying to learn about ‘the game’ and restrict your life with ‘rules’ or tactics. This applies mostly to guys that try to memorize pick up lines but also to women who play waiting games with guys they DO like. Don’t get it mixed up – flirting is fun, games are sick. The real way to solve any of this is to work on ourselves. Whatever it takes to make you feel better about yourself also tends to make others want to be around you.

Girls seem to get this a little better than guys and that has to do with the nature of female relationships to be according to emotional communication. Since guys don’t open up as much because of the ego attached to one’s dating life, they don’t get the benefit of learning from each other’s experience. The best thing to improve your chances with the other sex is to improve yourself. This applies to both guys and girls. Do work that you love, get therapy if you have glaring emotional issues, and maintain your body so you feel good and look good too. Get a hobby and treat yourself to something. Some people might find yoga helpful. Others might go to a med-spa or even as far as to get a little plastic surgery, which you can find through this site here. Remember that the only judge is you. As long as it makes you feel better.It is okay if you are frustrated with your dating life. The process of growing and improving ourselves isn’t supposed to be easy. But if you just did what is easy today it is harder tomorrow. If what you do is hard today, will be easier tomorrow. Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox!

Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox… Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading… Share This Article Facebook2Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: Dating & Relationships, For Men, For Women, Relationships To many, the One Night Stand is a right of passage.  To others it’s a Scarlett Letter to be buried, covered up and never spoken of again, yet others call the One Night Stand a typical Tuesday night.  Before this particular One Night Stand, I’d had one other… that certain wasn’t really fun, just awkward.  Anyway the One Night Stand, for which i will be called a “Jerk,” began interestingly enough… It was a night like many others at that time: Friday night out with friends and drinks in hand.  I believe that particular Friday we were celebrating a friend’s birthday. During this time I was dealing with some heart break.  A girl I was really into pretty much rejected me.  She was pretty much using me for the easy sex, which in retrospect is freaking cool, and didn’t want anything long term… I’d later find out she was engaged to someone else, but that’s not really central to our story, kids. Needless to say, I was feeling lonely… Lonely and a good bit “fired up.” I wanted to take a girl home and, well, for lack of a better term, fuck her.

  Hard.  That’s it.  Simple.  Carnal.  Primal. I didn’t really care who I took home either.  I looked around the bar at all the twenty something woo girls, the older boy devouring cougars and thirty somethings that felt they were too great for the joint, but had nowhere easier to be… There were choices to create, people.